First step:
Take a break from dating for a while.
Be by yourself.
Try and figure out on your own the type of person you want to be and the type of relationship you want to be in.
Second step:
Do the opposite.
So you think you might have a control issue?
Relinquish control in everything that you do.
Get a random number generator app on your phone and let it make decisions for you.
See how this makes you feel.
If you feel like the world is ending you probably do have a control issue.
If not, keep going and see how this works for you.
In most situations doing the opposite will open doors that you never thought possible.
This is likely because you’ve been trying to do the same thing your whole life seeking different results and not getting them.
Doing the opposite frees you from making the same decisions over and over again.
Step 3:
When you feel it’s appropriate, try dating again.
It’s likely you’ll know more about yourself than ever before.
You’ll notice tendencies when dating that you never could in prior experiences.
After noticing and analyzing the tendencies that you have try to resemble the person you want to become.
Put yourself in a relationship that you feel is right and want to be in.